Love Language – Developing Healthy Relationships
Love defines a whole range of positive and powerful emotional states, from the highest religious virtue or ideal, the best intimate relationship, to the simplest joy. It is not surprising, then, that love frequently brings with it various negative feelings like envy, resentment, and fear. Conversely, there are times when love gives us the opportunity to experience a sense of connectedness, connection, and oneness with others. This type of emotion is known as the feeling of oneness. If love is present in your life and you feel it’s at its very best, you will have heard the expression “You are in love”.
Love is one of the most powerful forces for generating growth and well-being. When love is present in a relationship, it generates harmony within the relationship and enables each partner to contribute his or her own special qualities and gifts to create an atmosphere of total, unconditional love. Without love, there can be little harmony or balance within a relationship. A lack of love can create conflict and difficulties that hinder the healthy development. As a result of the tension that love creates within a relationship, both partners tend to withdraw from each other, creating a vacuum which can lead to resentment, hurt feelings, anxiety, depression, and even marital difficulties and breakdowns.
Love generates healing energy, as it makes us feel light and our hearts light as we are lifted up to another level of being. It can transform the way we think, feel and act. Our personal well-being and the quality of our relationships become directly linked. For example, if we feel loved we generally feel confident, balanced and good about ourselves. We’re able to enjoy a higher level of success at work, at home, in our relationships, and in everything that we do.
Unconditional love can actually promote a better sense of well-being. Studies have shown that having long-term affectionate relationships with just one person rather than several different ones leads to a more positive mental health and greater resilience in life. Long-term affection and feelings towards one person can provide an emotional boost, providing the kind of stability and security that is needed in times of change or challenge.
Conversely, long-term infatuation and physical intimacy may be the path to trouble. When we focus exclusively on our partner and develop an intense, continuous desire to be with them exclusively, we can become emotionally dependent on them. If we are already in a committed relationship, this can be a dangerous situation. Not only are we investing a great deal of energy and time into someone who may not reciprocate our feelings towards us in a satisfactory way, but we may be putting ourselves at risk of being hurt. In addition, our partner’s absence can create a great deal of emotional distance between the two of us.
So, what does all this have to do with loving someone and developing a healthy relationship? Well, when we invest love and time in someone else, we are sharing our life with that person. We are making our lives together longer and more enjoyable because we are connecting with a deeper level of love. A healthy relationship involves giving and receiving from both partners as well as being available to each other in all areas. In fact, it is impossible to give and receive fully if you are always focused on someone else, or if you are holding back from showing your true feelings because you fear that they may reject you. By learning the basics of loving someone and developing a healthy relationship, you will be able to express all your feelings freely, without fear of rejection.